Leadership is not easy. In fact, if you are doing it right, it is downright difficult. Learning to lead is an ongoing process that evolves with you. Many skills and talents are molded together to create the leader you are today. Your personality and the experience you have had either as a leader or with the leaders around you will definitely contribute to who you are as a leader. We are clearly influenced by leaders and their actions, whether directly or in the media – a great leveler when it comes to viewing leaders as they truly are.
Think about this though. Have you progressed in your leadership development so that you know it is okay to be vulnerable?
Vulnerable is defined in the Merriam-Webster Dictionary as ‘being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally’. As leaders, we need to accept that we are human – being vulnerable is part of that.
Being vulnerable is not:
– A sign of weakness or indecision
– Becoming a doormat and allowing others to walk all over you
– Crying at the drop of a hat
– Taking unnecessary risks that could harm you or your organization
– Abdicating responsibility
Being vulnerable as a leader is:
– Letting others know you need help and asking for it
– Listening to feedback and incorporating it into your next steps or development plans
– Understanding that not everyone will ‘like’ you and dealing with the emotions that comes with that acknowledgement
– Being empathetic and compassionate with your team, your family, your clients and your vendors – consistently and authentically
– Allowing yourself opportunities to reflect and review your past performance and behaviour and seeking guidance for change
In quite the opposite direction, a leader needs to be confident to show their vulnerable side- this includes self-awareness that shows the leader can be multi-faceted and certainly focused at the same time. It may not be easy to reconcile this in your mind. As a human being, many emotions collide and keeping them bottled up really is not a good idea. Finding ways to express emotions like frustration, confusion, regret, happiness, joy and all the rest is an art developed by experience. Take some time to think about the many ways in which you interact with clients and colleagues.
Do you focus on building relationships instead of making transactions? This applies to both clients and team members. With clients, it is clear – get to know them and build the relationship so that they trust you. As soon as trust develops, the relationship is now a two-way street and no longer about a transaction but about making both parties better. The same applies to relationships with your team – it is not about strictly giving direction (the transaction – they do what we say). Now you are venturing into tapping into who does what best, or who needs to stretch and grow in new directions because you have gotten to know them and understand who they are and the direction in which they would like to move.
Are you interested in listening and truly understanding as opposed to glossing over objections to close the sale? If you truly listen, you are doing so with your whole body – and seeing as well as hearing what is being said. If you are only trying to close the sale and get the dollars, they most certainly will not stick in the future as there has not been a true effort to build trust. By taking time to listen, even though you may not get the sale today, you have been open and vulnerable to rejection and allow the other party to learn more about you.
As a leader, you are charged with guiding others to move forward through your example. Lora Crestan Tweet this!
This could be an individual or an entire company. How you act will define how others act. How you develop relationships will be reflected in how your team learns to, and then builds relationships. Your ability and courage to show vulnerability will provide a more open environment in your organization, allowing for change, personal growth and stronger bonds to develop.
How you act will define how others act”.
Are you a Vulnerable Leader? Describe to us how you became one.

For more than a year now I haven’t had a commute. I don’t miss the commute, but recently I had a realization – a longing even, for something I did enjoy while commuting… listening to books. I used to read & listen, through an insane number of books and I loved it. Learning and growing is something core to my motivation. With no commute this last year, I have missed that aspect greatly.
Success Plan – The last couple months have been a whirlwind of activity, especially surrounding the Ultimate Annual Personal Success Plan. I’m happy to say that the plan is finally completed, and it ROCKS! The Ultimate Annual Personal Success Plan is a Microsoft Excel Workbook that is meant to not only help define your goals, but it will help you to align, track, measure, and execute on the plans to reach your annual goals and dreams.
For those that have been following the ultimate success plans posts, you know that this has been a pursuit that I have been perfecting for over 3 years. I have a big and embarrassing confession to make though. You see, when I first started preparing to write the Ultimate Personal Success Plan e-Book and the posts for this new version; I actually wasn’t sure how it was going to end. Due to some successes, failures, and struggles I had in 2012, I knew I needed to make some changes to the plan, but I wasn’t sure what to do. So I delayed, and delayed as long as I could.





Sometimes the best laid plans get derailed, which is exactly what happened to me last week. I had a epiphany that completely changed the outcome of the Ultimate Personal Success Plan. It took me a week to figure out exactly what I was going to do, but the result of this blast of revelation makes the Ultimate Annual Personal Success Plan so much more powerful. So for a week posts were not published and I have been pretty silent as I developed this plan, more on this later…
After the last post, I hope you have a bunch of things written down that you want to accomplish in your life and in more specifically in the next year. We are going to come back to that list shortly. I firmly believe that success in certain areas of one’s life can equal extreme failure in other areas of one’s life, if one is not careful. For example, how successful would I really be if I wrote 4 books next year; but at the same time, alienated my family and friends because I never spent time with them? I also believe that the synergy of success from one area, can fuel passion and greater achievement in another area. So take that same example, if I met the needs and wishes of my spouse and family, and thus ended up improving my relationships, that joy and success would carry over and make me more passionate and motivated to duplicate that success in another area of my life, like writing books. Plus I would probably have more support from my wife and family for doing so.
On June 1st of 2012, I released a guest post on a personal branding site that went viral. I couldn’t believe how much it was shared on Twitter and other social networks in such a short amount of time. I was invited to start-off the first day this Personal Branding Blogathon, put on by Peter Sterlacci at
Success Plan, Personal Success Plan, Annual Plan, Resolutions, Goals… nope, lets combine it all into The Ultimate Annual Personal Success Plan, now is the time! As many of my readers have seen I have been working on an e-book for the Ultimate Personal Success Plan. As I have been working on it there has been one thing that kept bugging me. – I hate e-books… Usually when someone gives away an e-book, I download it, I browse through it, and then it goes in a folder where e-books go to rest and ultimately sit unopened forever more.
Jim Valvano said, “Be a dreamer. If you don’t know how to dream, you’re dead.” No matter how you feel after the election, and no matter what comes out of the next few weeks; you must keep YOUR dream alive. Governments, kings, rulers, and bad relationships cannot kill your dream. They may dampen your spirits, crush your hopes, and cut into your nerves; but they cannot take away YOUR dream.
Back in 2011 I was working for a company as Chief Operations Officer. In 2009 I had sold my company to this organization, but after the first year or so, I knew that it wasn’t going to be the place to hang my hat for the rest of my career. So I began thinking about and preparing for a career change. I had sold my company because I had created a cloud computing model that had huge potential. I was passionate about cloud computing and technology and felt I was on the forefront of the industry (which I was).